RonRolheiser,OMI

Honour Your Father and Mother: The Fourth Commandment

On the surface, the demands of this commandment are clear. It asks, first, that we give honour, obedience, gratitude and affection to our parents and elders since it is to them that we owe our lives. Part of that duty too means that we are committed to caring for them when they become dependent in sickness and old age. Secondarily, the commandment extends to cover all legitimate authority and law within one’s society. Hence it asks children to honour their teachers, citizens their country and its leaders, and all persons to obey the laws of their society. 

Why? Why does scripture (God) ask this obedience of us?

The precept to honour our elders underscores our dependence and interdependence. For me to honour and obey my parents is to admit that I, myself, am not self-sufficient, that I am not a law unto myself, and that I am not (as the scholastic philosophers used to say of God) a self-subsistent being. I need to honour my elders and be obedient to laws that are moral and legitimate because I am not God, pure and simple. The fourth commandment, when properly observed, puts me in touch with my deepest reality and my truest dignity: I am a child of God and interdependent with others. Deep down we all know this. 

Simone Weil once suggested that we spend most of our lives searching for something to be obedient to because, without this obedience, we know that we will inflate and fall apart. She is right. To acknowledge that I am not God is to immediately bend the knee in genuflection to something beyond myself, upon which I depend. Parental authority and legitimate civil authority represents that something. I need to honour it.

Unfortunately, this becomes less clear and more problematic when, as is too often the case, one’s parents and civil authorities do not sufficiently merit that honour and obedience, when they abuse or abdicate their authority. Hence, what can it mean to honour your father and mother in a culture which, for the most part, sees obedience as infantile? How can this commandment be accepted as life-giving by persons who regard hierarchical authority as wrong? How do you honour a father or a mother who is too absent, too abusive, too selfish, or too immature to merit that honour? And how can you respect authority when there are, in fact, many bad laws and more than enough corrupt authorities?

One might try to answer those questions, as they have often been answered in the past, by drawing a distinction between the chair of authority and the abusive or immature person who happens to be sitting in that chair. Likewise one can draw a distinction between the ideal of law and individual laws which are unjust. Such distinctions carry a valuable pedagogy: Honour the seat of authority without necessarily honouring the person in that chair; honour parental authority without honouring bad fathers and bad mothers; and honour the law without honouring bad laws. Those aphorisms contain a wisdom, but more needs to be said.

In the face of the tension – God gave us a commandment to honour our fathers and mothers but we often have bad fathers and bad mothers – we must avoid two extremes:

On the one hand, we must not obey a bad father or a bad mother, just as we must never obey a bad law or a bad government. The honouring of authority that is asked for by the fourth commandment does not ask us to put up with abuse, injustice, or evil in the name of holy obedience. Neither does it ask us to put infantile, rote, and blind trust in those who have authority over us. To honour our fathers and mothers does not mean to abandon our critical, adult, and moral faculties. Bad authority must be resisted, challenged, and, when completely recalcitrant, disobeyed. The fourth commandment does not ask us to genuflect to idols.

On the other hand, however, we may never become gods unto ourselves, unable to genuflect, blind to, and unacknowledging of, our dependence and interdependence. It is not for nothing that Lucifer’s sin is summed up in the phrase: “I will not serve!” It is not by accident that the prototype of all sin, Adam and Eve’s sin, the original sin, is metaphorically expressed as a sin of disobedience. All sin, in the end, is the refusal to honour Father and Mother. 

When Jesus sweated blood in the Garden of Gethsemane and said to God: “Not my will but yours be done!” he understood what was at stake with the fourth commandment. When I stand in pride and strength and say: “I did it my way!” there is a very real danger that I am not honouring my father and mother

Remember To Keep Holy The Sabbath Day: The Third Commandment

Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. What is forbidden by this edict? In dealing with the third commandment perhaps it is better to ask what is bidden by it. What is the positive challenge in God telling us to rest one day a week?

For many years, for most of us, the third commandment simply meant that we could not do our normal work on Sundays and on that day we were obliged, as well, to go to church to fulfill our “Sunday obligation”. Western culture, for the most part, played along and most non-vital businesses and commerce shut down on Sundays. If we transgressed, we confessed: “I missed going to church on Sunday” or “I worked on Sunday”. 

Today there is considerable confusion about what it means to keep the Sabbath day holy and, for the most part, this commandment is being benignly ignored. More and more in Western society there is business as usual on Sundays and many of us are obliged to work on that day, whether we want to or not. Church attendance is also declining steadily. In this context we must again ask: What does it mean to keep holy the Sabbath day?

The book of Genesis states that God created the world in six days and on the seventh day, the sabbath, God rested. We too are to rest on that day because God did. But that is a curious logic. First of all, how does God rest? What is meant here has not so much to do with God being busy or at leisure as it has to do with the purpose of creation. Biblically, the sabbath is the end, the feast, for which all creation was made. Hence, Jesus tells us that we were not made for the sabbath, the sabbath was made for us. Simply put, the sabbath prefigures the end times, the world that is to come, heaven. What the precept to keep the sabbath holy asks is that we, individually and collectively, regularly, have a sabbatical (notice the root of that word) by stopping our normal work and activities so as to try to taste a little of what the final state will be like. 

Hence, according to Scripture, our lives should have a certain rhythm: work should be followed by play, pressured time by unpressured time, duty by worship, earth by heaven. Every seventh day we should taste a bit of play, unpressured time, worship, and heaven. Very practically, the idea of the sabbath suggests that we should have this rhythm in our lives: we work for 6 days, then have one day of sabbatical; we work for 6 years and have one year of sabbatical (only a few privileged academics get to actually live out this part); and we work for a lifetime and then have an eternity of sabbatical, that is, an eternity of rest in God. One day a week, Sundays for Christians and Saturdays for Jews, we are supposed to remind ourselves that we are made not for work, but for play, that we do not live by work and worry alone and, in the end, we will not live by work and worry at all. 

But there is further element involved in observing the sabbath, reconciliation. We stop work once a week not just to rest and worship God, but also, and especially, to forgive debts, to bring ourselves more into a general sympathy with all things. To observe the sabbath means to cancel debts, to forgive others, to let go of our hurts. Our failure to do this is the reason why, so often, our vacations and recreation times do not really renew us. We come back from a holiday, physically rested and suntanned, only to find that almost immediately all of our problems return and we are tired again. We have not really been renewed, we have only suspended our worries for a while and they return because we have not forgiven anyone. 

Hence in examining ourselves against the third commandment, we should not just confess that we did not go to church on Sunday or that we did business as usual on Sunday, we should also confess that we did not forgive others on Sunday. 

Observing the sabbath is a critical observance, both religiously and psychologically. Unless we pull back from our normal lives regularly, one day a week, and rest, worship, and forgive, we lose perspective on what is really important and become compulsive, driven persons who are caught up in the rat race. Likewise we become ambitious, greedy, and resentful, unable to pray, to forgive, and simply enjoy life. It is no accident that today, as Sunday observance is slipping, we find ourselves ever more trapped and pressured, always behind, never really able to rest, and unable to delight in the deep joys of life. What this means is that we are not observing the sabbath.

The sabbath is our day. Once a week we have a chance to taste a wee bit of heaven – to rest, worship God, forgive each other, and to feel a bit more in sympathy with all things.

You Shall Not Take The Name Of The Lord In Vain: The Second Commandment

The second commandment is perhaps the most misunderstood of all the commandments. How do I take God’s name in vain?

The common idea is that we break this commandment when we “curse and swear”, that is when we use foul language, expletives, four letter words, and say the words “God” or “Christ” when angry or careless. I remember, as a child, telling the priest in confession: “I cursed and swore, I used bad language.” Today, as a confessor, I still hear this. People confess that they curse and swear. However, the way most of us conceive of cursing and swearing is not the way we break the second commandment. How do we violate the prohibition against using God’s name in vain?

To curse and to swear does violate the second commandment, but, cursing and swearing are not generally what I do when I slice my golf ball the wrong way or hit my finger accidentally with a hammer. The words I often utter at those times might well be an offense or a sin against charity, but they are not what is forbidden by the second commandment. This is not cursing and swearing in the real sense.

What is forbidden by the second commandment? A number of things:

At an obvious level, this commandment forbids us to take false oaths, lie under oath, and make trivial oaths. We break the second commandment when we perjure ourselves, and when we make light of the sacred ritual of taking an oath. But the commandment reaches much further into life than that. What it ultimately asks is that we respect God’s holiness, that we give God space enough to be God.

The first way we do this is through irreverence. All sin, ultimately, is irreverence, lack of respect. This, however, must be carefully understood. There is a healthy irreverence, that of the court jester who smashes pomp and grandiosity. But there is also an irreverence that violates. As William Buckley puts it: “The commandment which enjoins us not to take in vain the name of the Lord is unrelated to a carefree expletive when you stub your toe, or lose money on the stock market, or lose three straight sets at tennis. It is commandingly august as an injunction against an inversion of those few qualities that distinguish us from the beasts, and there is no period, not even the Fasching in Munich or the Carnival in Rio, or Monty Python, when we are relieved of the obligation to experience sorrow at our inhumanity to each other, let alone our inhumanity to God.” (Montreal Gazette, Sept. 22, 1979). I break the second commandment, I disrespect the name of God, when I am inhuman, gross, offensive, coarse, crude, when I violate the proper propriety of things.

I also disrespect the name of God when I curse another person. This too should be properly understood. What is a curse? How do I curse another? Cursing, like swearing, is, in the end, not so much a question of language as it is a question of attitude. I curse others when, in whatever way, I kill life, enthusiasm, and delight in them. To take just one example, a primal one: Imagine a little child in a high chair, just after dinner. The child, full of life and energy (and sugar) spontaneously fills with delight and begins to shout joyously and throw food about the room. I, the depressed adult, irritated by all this joy, holler at the child: “Shut up!” I have just cursed that child. I have just taken the name of the Lord in vain, irrespective of whether or not I actually used God’s name in my tantrum. I have just violated the proper order, as God set it up. I have just cursed, disrespected the name of God. I have also broken another commandment, the fifth one: I’ve just killed.

Finally, I disrespect the name of God when I refuse to accept the normal tension and inconsummation within life and, instead, demand, in whatever way, that God and others give me what I want, on my terms, right now. I disrespect the name of God through impatience. When I am impatient, when I demand that things go my way and lash out in frustration when they do not, when I will not give others and God the time and space they need to unfold according to their dictates, then it is not the angry words I say, the expletives, that are the problem, it is the impatience that is. I curse and swear, not so much with the words I say, but in the demand I make that life unfold on my terms and on my timetable.

I take the name of God in vain, I curse and swear, when, through crudity, anger, or impatience, I am inhuman to others and to God.

You Shall Have No Other Gods Before Me: The First Commandment

Among all the commandments, the first is the most difficult to keep. We are forever worshipping strange gods. Idolatry, more so even than atheism, is what is natural to us. But how do we, believers, Christians, sincere churchgoers  – break the first commandment? How do we have strange gods before us? 

The answer is not easy. The idolatry that afflicts us has little to do with worshipping icons, misguided devotions, and other such things. It is subtler. It has to do with the false images of God to which we give obeisance. Allow me to name 10 such false gods whom we habitually substitute for the real God, Yahweh, the Father of Jesus Christ.

1) The arbitrary god of fear.

2) The insecure, defensive, threatened god.

3) The dumb, non-understanding god.

4) The exotic god of special places.

5) The ascetic god whose Christ does not proclaim feast.

6) The emasculated god of unbalanced piety.

7) The orthodox god of strict theological formulation.

8) The unholy god our own image and likeness.

9) The overly intense, wired, god of our own neuroses.

10) The anti-erotic god, anti-enjoyment, god of our guilt.

Space does not allow for a commentary on each of these, but allow me a few, more general, reflections. I apologize as well about the directness of some of the comments. They are not meant to be irreverent, but … iconoclasm, smashing false gods, is never a gentle business.

In the Greek myth of Prometheus, humanity is punished for stealing fire from the gods. In ancient mythology, the gods have life and want to keep it for themselves. We, humans, are an unwanted pregnancy, unwanted children. Hence everything we do, especially anything creative, is threat to the divine realm.

We have never overcome this. By and large we still believe that God is petty, defensive, and threatened by us. We feel that God likes us better when we are uncreative and docile, when we don’t steal his fire. It is no accident that many creative persons leave the church and that the church has so often been defensive about progress, evolution, and human creativity. The God we believe in is too threatened and defensive.

We also, habitually, worship a god whom, unconsciously, we consider to be rather dumb and non-understanding of our human complexity. Just one typical example: I once officiated at a funeral for a young man from a very religious family who, while away from the church and living rather dissolutely, was killed accidentally while drunk. The people at his funeral, good churchgoers all of us, were not only grieving his loss, we were also fearing for his eternal salvation. One woman remarked to me: “He was good soul, underneath it all. I knew him. If I were opening the gates of heaven, I would certainly let him in, despite his irresponsibility.” She was an understanding woman, but she was not giving God credit for the same thing. All of us tend to mirror that attitude. We do not give God credit for being as bright as we are. 

The god we worship is also, most often, an ascetic, an anti-erotic, celibate who does not want his children to enjoy sex and who is less happy when his children are smiling than when they are suffering. This god sends us, as messiah, not a Jesus who declares that the kingdom is a wedding feast, but an ascetic who never says: “Weddings must increase and I must decrease!” Rarely do we worship a smiling, relaxed God, who makes forgiveness as easy to access as the nearest water tap. 

We commit idolatry too when we make God more monastic than domestic, when we limit God’s presence to churches and holy places and do not notice God in our kitchens. When I cannot see the wounds of Christ in the pained face of the person across the table from myself, then my crucifix is more gold calf than icon. 

Finally, we break the first commandment when we make worship of God more a question of proper orthodoxy and correct doctrine than a question of letting the life of the Trinity, Love, flow through us. God, I suspect, prefers a loving, gracious heretic to person who is theologically correct, but bitter and unloving.

Whenever we conceive of God as somehow being defensive, exotic, anti-enjoyment, less compassionate and intelligent than ourselves, and preferring orthodoxy to compassion, we are breaking the first commandment. Such is idolatry.

Protect Us From All Anxiety

During the prayers at a Eucharist, just after the Lord’s Prayer, the priest adds the following: “Protect us from all anxiety …” 

In English it is not so clear what this prayer means. Is not some anxiety good for us? Can we ever really be free of all anxiety? Would we want to be? Some priests, sensing these questions, try to improve the prayer by qualifying it with things like: “protect us from all useless and needless anxiety.”  But that, sincere though it is, still misses the point of the prayer. 

There is something to that phrase that merits ferreting out. I was struck recently at a German mass by the phrasing that they have. In German the prayer goes this way: “and protect us from all BOSEN”.  I remember enough German from my youth to know what that means. In German BOSEN (pronounced: basen) means anger and it means a particular kind of anger, namely, a paranoid kind, an ugly and a self-pitying kind. To be BOSE, “angry”, is to have a chip on one’s shoulder and a negative attitude towards the world. As kids we used use that of somebody who, as we said then, was  “mad at the world”.

Understood in this light, that prayer might well be rendered this way: “Protect us, Lord, from going through life with a chip on our shoulders, angry at the world, full of paranoia, looking for someone to blame for our unhappiness.” Said like that, it makes sense to pray it, as we do, just before the sign of peace. 

And, put that way, it is makes sense too that we pray it always and everywhere. In Mark’s gospel, the first words that come from Jesus’ mouth, like an overture to the whole gospel, are the words: “The time is at hand, repent and believe in the good news.”  However, this phrase also needs some explanation regarding language in order to see the full meaning that it carries. Understood as the English reads on the surface, the word “repent” implies that someone has done something wrong and needs to give that up and grieve that wrong. But that is not really what the Greek implies. 

To call us to repentance, Jesus uses the word METANOIA, a word that literally means to do a 180 degree turn. But what are we called to turn from? In Greek, the word METANOIA makes somewhat of a pun (in terms of opposites) with the word PARANOIA, METANOIA is UNPARANOIA.  Hence what Jesus is saying at the beginning of the gospel might be put something like this: “Become unparanoid and believe that it is good news!” 

That, at the end of the day, is the real challenge we face as adults, to be unparanoid, to not be filled with BOSEN, to be mellow of heart. 

Simply put, for all of us, adults, it is hard to be mellow, and easy to be bitter; it is hard to be embracing, and easy to be suspicious; it is hard to be open to delight, and easy to be angry; it is hard to be truly concerned about the wounds of others, and easy to be filled with self-pity; it is hard to be able to admire beauty, gift, and success in others; and easy to be jealous; it is hard to have a universal heart, and easy to be petty; it is hard to be honest about our own weaknesses and brokenness, and easy to blame; it is hard to be trustful, and easy to be suspicious; it is hard to be have hope, and easy to be cynical; it is hard to have good manners, and easy to be uncouth;  it is hard to be gentle, and easy to be harsh; it is hard to be gracious, and it is easy to go through life with a negative attitude; and it is hard to truly give another the sign of peace. 

A couple of years ago, I was at a conference where the topic was aging. At one point a man asked the speaker (a priest psychologist) this question: “Why do so many people age badly? Why do so many people get angrier as they get older?” His answer: “It is not a question of people getting angry as they get older. No. It is rather a question of angry people getting older!” 

As we age, and precisely grow to see and understand things more deeply, daily, it becomes harder not to fill with anger, resentment, and paranoia. Inside of us, there is a near constant pressure that says: “I have every right to be angry!” We do. 

But we also have a right to our own greatness and part of that greatness is to be women and men, adults, who walk this earth, gray-haired but gracious, full of warmth, mellow of heart, unsuspicious of each other, believing that it is good news = free from all anxiety.

Daily Mass

I have been a priest for more than twenty years and one of the great privileges of that has been the opportunity to say mass daily. At that daily mass (Eucharist, if you prefer the more contemporary term) I have met an interesting variety of persons. I say ‘variety’ because there is not just one type of person who comes to daily mass.

Who does come to daily mass? In my experience no single category does justice here. On the surface at least, it appears that there is little common among those who attend daily mass. It is a most strange mixture of people: some nuns, some unemployed people, a lot of retired women, some retired men, a few young persons, some housewives, and a motley collection of nurses, businessmen, secretaries, and other such professionals on their lunch break.

There is no similarity in character among them, but there is something among them (and I am speaking here only of those who truly have the habit of attending daily mass) that is held in common, namely, in the end, they are all there for the same reason. What is that reason? It is something that is deeper and less obvious than is immediately evident. Simply put, people who go to mass daily are there in order to stay alive. They go to mass because they know that, without mass, they would fall apart, inflate, become depressed, and be unable to handle their own lives.

That’s quite a mouthful! People go to daily mass in order to stay alive! I doubt that most people who attend mass daily would tell you that. More likely they would tell you something to the effect that they go to mass to pray to God, or to be nurtured and sustained by God, or to touch God and to receive God’s blessing upon their day, or because they feel it is only right that they should offer some of their day back to God. On the surface, those are their reasons. But for anyone who sustains the habit of daily mass for a long period of time there is a deeper reason, always. Daily mass is a ritual, a deep powerful one that sustains a person in the same way that the habit of attending an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting sustains a man or a woman seeking sobriety.

I understood that parallel when an alcoholic friend explained to me why he goes regularly to AA meetings. He told me: “I know, and know for sure, that if I don’t go to meetings regularly, I’ll begin to drink again. It’s funny, the meetings are always the same, the same things get said over and over again. I know everything that will be said. Everyone coming there knows that. And I don’t go to those meetings to be a nice person. I go there to stay alive. I go there because, if I don’t, I will eventually destroy myself!”

What is true about Alcoholics Anonymous meetings is also true for daily Eucharist. Granted, it is a prayer, it is a our primary coming together as Christians, it is Christ’s prayer, the perfect prayer that Jesus left us, and it is the place on this earth where God touches us physically. Eucharist is these things. But it is more: it is also a ritual, a container, a sustainer, a coming together which keeps us from falling apart.

And we are always falling apart, failing in most everything: we fight, divorce, have relationships go sour, fill with resentment, lie, slander others, fall from grace, betray our friends and convictions, and only have pleasures which are never whole because they are never fully shared. We go to daily mass not to escape these things so as to fly off into some kind of immortality and freedom. No. The ritual of daily mass reminds us precisely of the fact that we are unfree, that we are sinners, and that we must die – just as an AA meeting reminds those there of the same thing. One approaches the Eucharist table daily precisely to keep oneself aware of the fact that “My name is Ron .. and I’m a sinner!”

Interesting too is the fact that there is a something else held in common among those who attend daily mass, they don’t want a service that is too long or too creative. They want a clear ritual, a predictable one, and a short one. Because of this they are often at the mercy of critics who look at this and, simplistically, see nothing other than empty ritual, rote prayer, people going through the mechanics of worship without heart. Nothing could be further from the truth and this type of accusation betrays the misunderstanding of an outsider.

Daily mass is not meant to be an experience of high energy and creativity. It’s a ritual act, simple, clear, profound. It’s a touching of Someone so as not to fall apart and die.

In Defense of Religion

Today, more and more, God and religion are seen as either a naiveté or a compost.

For a good number of persons, belief in God and religious practice are seen as a naiveté, a pre-scientific, pre-modern, and pre-critical attitude, tantamount to believing in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, nice, but not something that holds up under the demands of reality. For others, many of whom are still connected to their churches, belief in God and religion is, in the end, a compost – a rich cultural, ethnic, and mythological ferment that one can delve into and from which one can draw out all kinds of valuable things.

Sincere as these views are, both are wrong. At the end of the day, God and religion are viewed as a naiveté and are seen as mediating something else, namely, a helpful mythology, a valuable connection to your roots, a link up to archetypal energy, or something else of this nature. They are not seen, however, for what they are, a vital connection to an existing and life-giving Person. But belief in God and the practice of religion are not a naiveté, nor are they simply a rich mythological, archetypal, and ethnic compost. They are the water of life, the deepest raw truth there is. They are our connection to the source of all reality.

But that is precisely what contemporary agnosticism, of both the benign and belligerent variety, denies. For it, irrespective of whether it sees religion as a dangerous naiveté or a valuable compost, belief in God is ultimately a childish thing, something that one eventually outgrows. How so?

Implicit in virtually every type of contemporary atheism and agnosticism is the concept that history can be compared to a child growing up and that child eventually outgrows the naive belief that there really is a God. In this view, we have today outgrown our need to believe in God and we can never return to the childish security of that belief, no more than we can turn back the clock and believe that the world is flat. Science is science. Facts are facts. Once the modern, critical mind has been established no one can return to that naive, safe haven of pre-modern beliefs -God and religion. To believe that there is an actual God who is somehow beyond and above and Lord of time and space is unimaginable. Anything of this nature, beyond an ideology for justice, is considered pre-modern, pre-critical, unsustainable in the light of hard evidence, naive.

To the modern mind, religion, at least in so far as it actually believes in the reality it espouses, is, besides being somewhat infantile, the source of false intellectual security in that it offers clear cut, simplistic answers which are unable to stand up to the scrutiny of science, technology, the existence of pain and evil, and actual life as we experience it today. Some of the intellectual giants of our century explicitly espoused this. You see such a theory in Marx, Freud, and Weber, among others. Your average person on the street does not word it all that sophisticatedly, but he or she has the hunch, conscious or unconscious, that religion is unable to stand up to the test of modern life, that it is a thing of the past.

What’s to be said about this? Is belief in God possible only in a pre-modern, pre-critical mind? Yes, if one does not postulate the possibility of a post-modern and post-critical mind.

There is, indeed, something in the modern mind and modern world that renders real belief in God almost impossible. But the reason is not because the modern mind asks questions which are too hard for religion to answer. It is not that we are so open-minded that agnosticism and atheism are the only option. It is rather that we have fixated at a certain level of agnosticism. We haven’t asked too many questions. We asked too few. We haven’t, for example, asked:

Could it be that we have trouble believing in God because of the limited scope and poverty of our own imaginations, given that God is not in our image and likeness? Might it be that we have trouble imagining the existence of God because we cannot imagine a God who does not make human happiness, right here and now, the be all and the end all of creation?  And might it be that this incapacity to be open to something beyond our imaginings and our own will is not a sign of maturity but rather of infantile grandiosity? And, yes, might it be that the most open-minded, critical posture of all is post-modern and post-critical and, like Isaiah, stares at the wonder of it all and is only able to say: “Holy, Holy, Holy is the Lord God of Hosts!”?

1996 Will Be A Good Year If

Bernard Lonergan, one of the great intellectuals of our century, used to speak of something he called differentiated consciousness. For him, that meant a mind that did not think simplistically, namely, which did not divide up the world too quickly into blacks and whites and either/ors. To have a differentiated consciousness is to be able to hold seemingly opposing forces together and see them not as contradictory but as paradox. In such a consciousness there is less either/or and more both/and. As well, the person who has such a mind is able to carry the tension that this kind of paradox creates.

1996 will be a good year, for the world and for the church, if all of us can be a bit more differentiated in our consciousness. Put more simply …

1996 will be a good year if conservatives can be a bit more liberal and liberals can be a bit more conservative. How much easier it would be to have community at every level – political, ecclesial, social – if conservatives would be more open to risk and if liberals would respect more the need for a certain caution.

1996 will be a good year if social justice groups begin to stress more the value of private morality, including sexual ethics, even as various prayer groups and conservative Christians begin to underscore the importance of social justice. Think how rich would be our spirituality if everyone stressed equally both the private and social domain.

1996 will be a good year if those who stress responsibility put just as equal a stress on human rights and those who are so morally and politically righteous about human rights, each time they speak publicly, speak also of the responsibilities concomitant with those rights. Think about the possibility for public discourse if every speaker equally values both rights and responsibilities.

1996 will be a good year if social analysts, schools of psychology, and secular moralists stress more chastity and purity, even as church circles, especially conservative ones, stress sexual passion and sexual enjoyment within marriage. How rich will be that marriage – passion and purity.

1996 will be a good year if men become more sympathetic to the oppression of women even as women become more understanding of the depression of men. In fact, 1996 will be a very good year if both sexes take more to heart Virginia Woolf’s plea that “we adopt an attitude of sympathy towards both sexes, given that life, for both of us, is arduous, difficult, and a perpetual struggle.”

1996 will be a good year if the elite (artists, intellectuals, and theologians) listen more to the poor and the less educated, if the intelligentsia take popular culture more seriously. Conversely, however, improvement here will only happen if, at the same time, the less educated and popular culture takes more seriously what is emanating from the circles of the elite. It was Aristotle who made the statement that a society is healthy when the elite listen to the common folk and the latter return that favour.

1996 will be a good year if liturgists who value so strongly prescribed ritual are more open to creative innovation, even as all liturgical congregations and celebrants respect the place and power of ritual and accept that the liturgy, since it transcends them and belongs to the whole community, is not theirs to do with whatever they like. How good our liturgies could be if we had the same respect for both ritual and creativity.

1996 will be a good year if those groups and individuals who value so highly political correctness would loosen up somewhat, regain their sense of humour, and not make a grandiose ideological drama out of everything. The value of this, however, is contingent upon those who are not hypersensitive becoming considerably more sensitive and less callous to the issues that cause all this hypersensitivity.

1996 will be a good year if the scientific community acknowledges more the importance of poetry, metaphor, and religion, even as artists, poets, and theologians learn the importance of mathematics.

1996 will also be a good year if newspaper columnists are less self-righteous and they live more what they preach.

A Human Saint

On December 3rd, 1995, Pope John Paul II formally declared Eugene de Mazenod, the former bishop of Marseilles, France, a saint of the church. For myself, this was not just another canonization. Eugene de Mazenod is the founder of Oblates of Mary Immaculate, the religious order of priests and brothers to which I belong.

Thus, as an Oblate, this was a pretty significant event for me. However, when someone is declared a saint, he or she becomes then a saint for the whole church, the property, so to speak, of everyone, and not just of those who have a special or a vested interest in his or her life. That is the case with Eugene. He now belongs to everyone, not just to us, the Oblates. 

So what should we know about him? Who was he? Why was he important? What might he model for us?

The chronology of his life can be easily given: He was born into an aristocratic French family, at Aix-en-Provence, in 1782. The French revolution forced his family into exile when Eugene was eight years old and he spent his youth shuttling among a variety of cities in Italy – bored, often melancholy, reading whatever books he could find, and struggling internally, torn between the pull of God and the lure of the world. At age 20 he was able to return to Aix. Although he had always been religious and had never, as he put it, given himself over to the pleasures of this world, at age 25, attending a Good Friday service, he had a profound religious conversion. His life was never the same.

He entered a seminary and became a diocesan priest. As a young priest, he was appalled by the condition of the church in Southern France at the time. The poor and those who lived in rural areas were, by and large, neglected. Feeling called to do something about this situation, he gathered around him a small group of idealistic young priests, set up community with them in a house he himself purchased, and formed a preaching team. This little missionary band then began to preach missions in the rural areas and among the poor.

Eventually, from this small band, the Oblates of Mary Immaculate were founded. Eugene himself, besides founding and directing until his death this band of missionaries, eventually became the Bishop of the Diocese of Marseilles and a towering figure in the French Church. Napoleon III appointed him a Senator, and when he died was the senior bishop of France.

Beyond that simple chronology, who really was he?  One of the caption descriptions about him, that runs like a leitmotif through many of his biographies, reads: He had a heart as big as the world. That he had and had in a time when provincialism, narrow loyalty to one’s own, sectarianism of the worst kind, and pettiness and self- interest characterized most of what was around him. He was a universalist, like Socrates, whose first identity was with humanity as a whole, not with his own tribe and kind.

But Eugene’s heart was big in another sense, it contained more than its share of flesh, blood, fiery passion, and pathological complexity. He was no China doll. As his biographies put it, he was a human saint, a man given over to anger and love, grandiosity and greatness, rage and forgiveness. His path to holiness was not a simple one. Eugene was too human. For this reason, his canonization process was never fast-tracked. The devil’s advocate always had lots of ammunition: Could someone so human be a saint?

But that complexity and humanity, in the end, was what made him a saint. Virtue did not come easily for him. Yet it came and, eventually, in extraordinary measure. His complexity tormented him, haunting any cheap peace or compromise he would try to make with comfort, wealth, or privilege. It left him no peace outside of God, depth, and real commitment. And his humanity, so often his downfall especially when he was given to fits of anger), was also his saviour. He was too human, too weak (so to speak), to ever look at another human being who was suffering and turn away. He was too human to be indifferent. His sensitive heart, which so often got him into trouble, in the end, because of its softness, was also the place where God and the poor could enter and stay.  

A human saint! That’s not an oxymoron. It’s a key, a secret, a wisdom. Humanity is the path, not the blockage, to holiness. Eugene de Mazenod, the founder of the Oblates of Mary Immaculate, helps show us that path. He can be a patron for those of us who struggle with the pathological complexity and pull of our own humanity.

The Fire that Shimmers Deep Within Things

“About the best way I can describe the transformation is to say that, now, I see colors!”

A man once shared this story with me: He had recently undergone a serious conversion. That conversion, as he described it, was not strictly speaking a religious one, nor, in a certain manner of speaking, even a moral one. It was an aesthetic conversion of sorts, though ultimately it was also profoundly religious and moral.

What had happened to him? He was in early middle-age, unmarried, and he had always been quite religious, fulfilling his religious duties with a vigor bordering on the scrupulous. Morally too, prior to the conversion he described, his life was essentially in order.

What he suffered from were two interrelated addictions, masturbation and alcohol. But even here, on the surface at least, these were relatively under control. They never, at least so it seemed, interfered with his work, his relationships, or his religious life. He was highly respected and no one who knew him would have guessed that he had a problem.

Except . . . except he knew he had one. As he matured, through his prayer life and through the respect that others entrusted him with, he began to see his own inconsistencies and he sought help.

His counsellor advised him to enter a separate 12-step program for each addiction, alcohol and sex. At first, he resisted, thinking: “I’m not an alcoholic! My sexual issues aren’t that serious!”

Eventually, however, he entered the programs and they, to use his own words, “wrought a great transformation” inside of him: “It wasn’t like I was that bad or anything before I entered those programs. My life was always essentially in order.

“So what happened to me? As best as I can put it, now that I go regularly to Alcoholics’ and Sexual Anonymous meetings, I see colors again. Before that, I wasn’t a bad person, but I was always so taken up with my own needs and yearnings that, most of the time, I wasn’t really seeing what was in front of me. Now, I see colors again and my life is rich in a way that it never was before.”

What kind of conversion is this? Is the challenge of the Gospel about seeing colors? I think so.

Abraham Maslow, after suffering a near fatal heart attack, went on to write: “One very important aspect of post-mortem life is that everything gets precious, gets piercingly important. You get stabbed by things, by flowers and by babies and by beautiful things—just the very act of living, of walking and breathing and eating and having friends and chatting.

“Everything seems to look more beautiful rather than less, and one gets the much-intensified sense of miracles.” (Quoted by John Shea, Spirit Master, p. 99).

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, in his spiritual masterpiece, The Divine Milieu, describes his own effort at letting things be piercingly important, I paraphrase: “It is a question of seeing. I long to see the fire that shimmers deep beneath things and deep within things. Oh, to see all things ablaze with God’s fire!”

Oh, to see color! I have a hunch that Jesus had precisely this in mind when he warned us: “Stay awake! Stay vigilant! You know not the time nor the hour!”

There are different ways to being awake, just as there are different ways to being vigilant.

Normally, we take Jesus’ words to stay awake and be vigilant as a more direct (and crass) religious and moral challenge: “Get your life in order because you don’t know when death will hit! Do the reconciliations you need to do! Wrap up your unfinished religious, moral, and relational business because death can catch you rather suddenly! Stay awake and vigilant—religiously and morally.”

There is truth and wisdom in that interpretation of things, but Jesus isn’t just talking about preparation for death, he is also talking about seeing colors while we are alive.

Like Maslow and Teilhard he is saying: “Be awake to the fire that is beneath and within things. Let things get precious and piercingly important—when you are still pre-mortem.

“Be awake to the beauty of babies, and flowers, and your family, and your friends, and your own health—before you are separated from them. Don’t be asleep while you are awake. Don’t be dead to life while you are living. Don’t be blind to miracle, especially to the miracle of your own life.

“Repent . . . and begin to see colors!”

The Christ Movement Downwards

There is an Aztec poem called, Ultimate Problem. It runs something like this: 

            In the Aztec design

            God is in the little pea

                        that is forever rolling out of the picture

            And all the rest extends bleaker

                        because God has gone away.

            In the white man’s design

            God is everywhere

                        but hard to see.

            The Aztecs frown on this:

            How do you know He’s everywhere?

                        And how did he get out of the pea?

            You could say that

                        if your are walking the roads of life these days

                        and if you are looking for God,

                                    or a piece of God

            You should be looking down

            For is God’s going to be found these days

                        it’s going to be in small things

                        it’s going to be close to the ground

                        it may even be below the ground.

            Looking for God, these days

                        requires the willingness to investigate the small

                                    to descend

                                    to look down

                                    to look down

                                    to look down. 

The incarnation, the central mystery of our Christian faith, invites us to look down, to investigate the small, to descend. Why? Because that is what God did in the incarnation. He emptied Himself, taking on the form of slave. He became small, a helpless baby.

Unfortunately, even though we all know this theoretically, we find it hard to do practically. Usually when we look for God we look the other way, towards the sky. We investigate the powerful. We try to ascend.

A friend of mine who is a counsellor tells me that, more and more, when people come to him they complain of their powerlessness and ask him to help them find ways of being more empowered. His response generally surprises them. Frequently, when they complain of powerlessness and ask to be more empowered, he asks them this question: “Why do you want to be more empowered? Most people who do have power are pretty unhappy and often they are pretty self-centred as well. Do you really want to be like that? Maybe your experience of powerlessness is a privileged avenue in your quest to know God and your own soul and its depth. Maybe you need to investigate more your experience of powerlessness to see what riches can be found in it.”

The movement of God in Jesus Christ is a downward one. Thus, among other things, it invites us to enter into the experience of powerlessness, it invites us to look down, to investigate the small. It invites us to look for God in the baby rather than in corporate magnate, the president, the prime minister, the rock star, the star athlete, the brilliant writer, the Nobel prize winning scientist, or the Hollywood god or goddess. It is not that God is cannot be present in these. It is just that, given the movement of the incarnation, if we are looking for God these days, we should be looking close to the ground, we should be investigating the small, we should be looking at the baby. 

Beyond telling us where we should be looking, the incarnation also tells us which way we should be travelling, namely, downwards. To be Christian, to be persons who keeping giving flesh to God in this world, we must, ultimately, be free of the tyranny of ambition and achievement, of measuring our meaning and success from what gives us upward mobility. A useful criterion to discern whether we are following Christ or following our own desires (under the guise of following Christ) is precisely whether are we moving upward or downward? Are we deeming equality with God as something to be grasped at? Are we growing in power, prestige, and admiration? Or, are we emptying ourselves and assuming the powerlessness of the poor?

There should be no delusion. The Christ-movement is downward.

It’s a Lot Easier to Take Care of Ourselves

There is a story told about St. Vincent de Paul which, while perhaps embellished by myth, needs nonetheless to be told and told and told again for its challenge is perennial. It runs something like this:

Vincent, whose life-effort, as we know, was directed to serving the poor, once gave his community the following instruction: “When the demands of service seem unfair to us, when we are exhausted and have to pull ourselves out of bed yet another time to do some act of service, we should do it gladly, without counting the cost and without self-pity, for if we persevere in serving the poor, persevere to the point of completely spending ourselves, perhaps someday the poor will find it in their hearts to forgive us.

“For it is more blessed to give than to receive . . . and it is also a lot easier!”

On the surface at least this is a curious comment. Why must the poor forgive us? What needs to be forgiven, especially if we are giving ourselves to them in service?

Our minds may not see the entire logic of his statement, but I suspect many of us, at the level of feeling, have a pretty good sense of what is at issue here. At a simple level, all of us know that there is a certain humiliation in needing to receive, just as there is a certain pride in being able to give.

What is worse than being too busy? Having nothing at all to do. What is more painful than having to give away most everything we own? Having nothing of our own to give away.

What is harder than being dragged out of bed to minister to someone in need?

Being the person who needs to drag someone else out of bed to minister to his or her needs. What is harder than being brought to our knees by the demands of those around us for our time and energy? Being on our knees begging someone else for his or her time and energy.

At one level it is easy to see why it is easier to give than to receive. But there is more.

There is divine power, literally, in being able to give. The one who gives gets to be God—or, at very least, to mediate God. That is not an overstatement. God is the source of all that is, the source of all gift. When we are in a position to give, we mediate that and feel that power, even if only unconsciously. There is a blessedness in that which, while ideally a great grace, can unfortunately easily be used to make the recipient feel inferior.

It is important to understand this, otherwise there is the perennial danger that we will use our gifts of service in a way that further demeans the poor. It is not easy to learn to give gifts in a way that does not shame the recipient.

But Vincent’s challenge goes further: He meant this too to be an antidote to self-pity. For anyone who is in a giving role—a parent, a priest, a minister, a teacher, a nurse, an advocate for justice, or even a politician—there is the constant temptation to fall into self-pity: “Look what I am doing! Nobody is doing anything for me! I am so tired! Is there no end to this? Am I the only one who cares? This is asking more of me than is fair! I have my own problems!”

It is easy, especially if one is tired and frustrated by lack of support, to lose heart, to begin to feel sorry for ourself, and to, eventually, feel oneself as victimized by those one is serving.

That is very common today. More and more, care-givers themselves are beginning to feel victimized by those to whom they are giving of themselves. Thus, psychologists have coined the term, “compassion burnout.”

Moreover, many good people are beginning to resent the demands of the poor—the welfare system, the push by various groups for their rights, the pressure of immigrants, the drain that the sick put on the energy and money of a society, the cost of repairing the damage done by youthful vandals, and so on.

Sadly, many of us are giving up and giving in, giving up on going the extra mile and giving in to the temptation to resign and take care of ourselves.

Given all this, Vincent de Paul’s little adage must be told and retold: If we do not pull ourselves out of our exhaustion and resignation and continue to serve the poor, they will not find it in their hearts to forgive us. So too we need to remember always that it is more blessed to give than to resign and take care of ourselves . . . and it’s also a lot easier!

Portraits of Vincent de Paul show him with a strong face, a warm face, a face that, everywhere, suggests a comfortable friendliness. He looks like a man you would want over for dinner. But if you had him over for dinner, you might want to make sure that your gift to him was indeed a real gift.

A Church Grieves Its Lost Innocence

One distinguishing characteristic of our church today in the Western world is that we are a grieving church. We live in a certain sadness, somewhere between a death and a new Pentecost, more than a little confused by resurrected life that we’ve not seen before, longing for what used to be, grieving.

What are we grieving? What have we lost?

Essentially we are grieving four things: i) A certain lost innocence, a golden age, a lost virginity; ii) a lost unity, a painful division within the church, an emotional apartheid; iii) a lost child, our child that has become adolescent, post-religious culture, and iv) a lost wholeness among the people, the grief of our people.

We are grieving a lost innocence. More superficially, we feel this as we experience the recent scandals within the church, sexual misconduct by some priests and bishops, financial impropriety and abuse of power by some church leaders, and other such things which have all but shattered the image of the church as the unsullied bride of Christ that does no wrong and has done no wrong.

Recent studies in church history have helped intensify this as they show that the church’s long history of grace is colored through all those years by a long history of sin.

But, painful as this is, it is not what is cutting deepest here. Less visible, less expressed, but more wounding, is the sense of having lost a deep security, the sense that we had the high moral ground, that we were the cognitive majority (so many millions of us can’t be wrong!), that we were having an affair with real existent virtues, and that our ecclesial structures, moral codes, and cherished ways of doing things, our cherished rights and wrongs, truly mediated grace.

We had faith in the tradition. Today what is in doubt is the goodness of that tradition. An innocence, a virginity, has been lost. This does not come without grief. We are grieving a painful division within the church and society. I doubt that there has been any time since the Reformation that the Roman Catholic Church has been so painfully divided emotionally.

In some places we, in fact, have two emotional communities, so divided are we by different theologies, ideologies, and spiritualities. We live in emotional apartheid. Different ideological communities are living apart. Such is our church today.

Division within the church is not new. Christ held true on his promise that he would bring fire to the earth. The difference today is that the division is not between the sincere and the insincere, the good and the bad, the committed and the non-committed. Today, too often, the sincere are divided from the sincere, the good from the good, the committed from the committed.

When good people can no longer be in community together, not even to mention respectful dialogue with each other, there are only two options: anger or sadness—and anger is just another form of sadness. We are a grieving church.

We are grieving a lost child. What is at issue here can best be expressed in an image: Western culture is to us, the church, much like an adolescent child is to its parents. We gave it birth, helped raise it, and now, with a fierceness and an anger that do not seem justifiable, it is asserting its independence from us, accusing us of being bad parents, and claiming it can find life only by moving away from us—and all this without acknowledging its debt to us.

Like parents too we fear for its life even as we envy its youth, power and daring, and resent its independence. Like parents, we feel a sadness. The child has left home, rejecting many cherished values in that exit. It is slipping away from us, daily becoming more post-Christian. To not admit a certain sadness about this is to be in denial.

Finally, we are grieving the grief of our people. Western society is, in large measure, despondent and suffering from every kind of brokenness. There is anger and frustration among women; depression and alienation among men. Brokenness, not wholeness, is the rule.

More and more it is the exception for someone to not come from a broken home, a broken marriage, a series of broken relationships and a background of sexual abuse. We are a society of the wounded and we bring this to our churches and this colors all of church life. We are a grieving church.

But that’s the death part. There’s another side, a resurrected Christ is already moving about and making appearances. We need to cry our tears, otherwise our hearts will harden, but we also need to gather in upper rooms and pray together until new tongues of fire put grief far behind.

The Pharisee And The Publican

There is an ancient parable about prayer which is also a parable about liturgical prayer. One version of it runs something like this: Two liturgical committees once met to plan their respective Sunday liturgies:

At the meeting of the first committee, a prayer was offered which, below the more obvious words, went something like this: 

“We thank you, God, for gracing us as you have. We know good liturgy and we celebrate it well. Some of us have been to the best workshops in the country. Several of us have graduate degrees in liturgy. Ours is an inclusive liturgy. We are sensitive to gender, race, and justice. We have a homily, not a sermon. We never get devotions mixed up with the word of God. Our music is always well prepared and its themes actually match the readings. Our readers and servers have all taken the proper workshops and perform their ministries with dignity. We use the latest official hymnals, as approved by the national commission on liturgy. Nobody uses missalettes in our community – and nobody needs to, the word of God is properly proclaimed. No photocopied materials appear in our liturgies and we scrupulously respect the copyright on all the hymns we use. Our priest is a most sensitive man who always uses inclusive language, disdains taking upon himself any ecclesial power, and has an alb that was cut in Brugges. Nobody can fault anything in our aesthetics, our theology, our inclusivity, nor in our commitment to justice.

And we thank you especially, God, that we are not like St. Elmer’s Parish down the road. Their priest is a drunkard who hasn’t taken a theology course in 30 years and all the theology he knows is pre-Vatican II. He comes into church on Sunday mornings wearing an old soutane that has egg stains on the front. The parish prays the rosary before mass and mixes up Marian devotions with the prayers of the faithful. They are still singing hymns from thirty years ago and they do not use inclusive language. The preaching is terrible (when, indeed, there is any) and, just last Sunday, in place of the homily the priest read a letter from the Bishop suggesting that everyone should get more involved in Prolife activities. Every pew is littered with photocopied materials – old parish bulletins, announcements for parish bazaars, and hymns (for which they haven’t received copyright permission). The altar top resembles the workbench at the local garage. The PA system works very poorly. Their readers are badly trained and cannot pronounce many of the words. Nobody seems to care, however, since, during the readings, everyone is absorbed in their missalette. There is always a second collection (for some dubious devotional cause) and, not infrequently, someone is actually lighting vigil lights during the Eucharist.” 

But at St. Elmer’s parish a committee was also meeting, to plan the Sunday liturgy, except they weren’t doing any real liturgical planning at all. They just met and said the rosary and then, afterwards, their pastor, Father Ziggy Donker, who indeed has a drinking problem, stood up and said: “Let’s just say an extra prayer now so that on Sunday we can help the others to pray a little better.” After he had said that, he felt pretty sheepish, knowing of course that he had a drinking problem and he wasn’t really worthy to be offering the mass for the people. So, at his bidding, they all said three Hail Marys. Eleanor Murphy then insisted that they should say the litany of St. Joseph (“because it’s March, after all!”). Fr. Ziggy was tired and bored with the litany, but thought it best to endure it because he did feel bad about his drinking. When the litany was finished, he blessed them and they all went home. As he was walking back to the rectory, a little tear appeared on his cheek and Ziggy hoped that, at church on Sunday, he could concentrate properly so that the mass would be a little better for the people.

A strange parable? Unfair perhaps. Persons saying Hail Marys are often too given over to contempt. Alcoholism is no guarantee of humility; indeed, its effects are often the opposite. Priests who have not read a theology book or attended a workshop in 30 years are hardly an ideal to emulate and lack of aesthetics is not a virtue. Moreover, insensitivity to the issues and language of inclusivity is never a good thing, nor is mixing up devotions with the Eucharist and preaching about everything, except the word of God. But that is not the moral of this parable. What is?

Jesus cautioned against contempt, against thinking ourselves better than others. He had many things in mind, mind you, when he said that, but I suspect he was also cautioning us about how we feel about ourselves when we look at what is happening at St. Elmer’s parish just down the road from us.

Celibacy And Holy Longing

Celibacy, as it is lived out today within clerical and religious life, has few defenders. More and more persons are suggesting the church should change the rules and no longer make it mandatory for priesthood. Moreover, and this is a different and deeper criticism, many critics are suggesting that celibacy, as a vowed state, is positively dysfunctional and should no longer be retained as an ideal of any kind. 

Their argument has both a theoretical and a practical prong: Theoretically, celibacy is seen as, in se, unhealthy. God made the universe to work in pairs, plain and simple. To be celibate, especially to choose positively to be so, goes against nature and is contrary to the way God intended life to be. To quote Merton, to choose celibacy is to choose to live in a loneliness that God, himself, has condemned. What’s wrong, these critics argue, is that, at the end of the day, vowed celibacy produces inside of a person (even in the person who lives it out faithfully) an inhuman asceticism, a Hamlet-type resignation, which ultimately devalues life. At its best, it creates a certain anti-hero, stoic, asexual, seemingly above ordinary human need, praying while others are making love. At its worst, it is perverse, either frigid or a lie. In either case, it is a fault in humility, belittling, among other things, sex, marriage, ordinary human life and enjoyment. 

Then there is the practical argument: A lot of celibates, to phrase it euphemistically, do not do celibacy very well. As recent surveys show, a lot of celibate (male, at least) have affairs, both homosexual and heterosexual. That, while obviously distressing, is not, to my mind, the primary indicator that many people are not living out their celibacy very fruitfully. More common, and more important, are some other indicators, namely, the number of celibates who not too subtly compensate for their celibacy through anger, self-pity, misuse of power, an overly affluent lifestyle, alcohol, eating disorders, bad bodily aesthetics, and bad work habits. Not all of these things, admittedly, are unique to celibates nor are they always compensatory for being celibate. But there is, undeniably, often a connection.  Hence it should not come as a surprise that more people are suggesting that the whole question of celibacy be radically re-evaluated. 

What’s to be said about this? Would we have a healthier priesthood if we ordained only married persons? Is vowed celibacy positively dysfunctional? Is it, in fact, unliveable? 

Good questions. Questions to be taken seriously. There are real problems with celibacy, especially at the level of fidelity. However, neither judge, critic nor proponent, should be quick in answering these questions. Celibacy needs re-examination, but in terms of both its negatives and its potentials. 

It can, admittedly, give rise to a duplicitous lifestyle and to all kinds of compensatory and dysfunctional activity. But it can also be very life-giving. It can be a privileged access to grace, just as married and sexual love can be. 

But, and this is the point here, celibacy can only be life-giving if it comes out of a certain mysticism, that is, if it takes its roots in a deep personal communion with God. Outside of this, it will always lead to some kind of masturbation, some unhealthy turning inward. There is no other option. A vowed celibate who does not have a vital personal relationship with God (which, at a point, engages his or her feelings) is a dangerous person – just as is a married person who does not have a vital relationship to his or her partner. Such a person is an affair and a compensation looking for a place to happen. 

Conversely, though, celibacy, vowed or otherwise, if linked to mysticism, can, as can all forms of inconsummation, be a privileged medium for bringing God into the world. God, as revelation assures us, has various ways of appearing in our lives. A special birth occurs when there is advent – yearning, longing, tears, and dry inconsummation. Fire comes after things reach kindling temperature.

When this happens, celibacy is also very life-giving for the person living it out. As Goethe puts it: “Now you are no longer caught in the obsession with darkness, and a desire for higher love-making sweeps you upward. Distance does not make you falter, now, arriving in magic, flying, and finally, insane for the light, you are a butterfly and you are gone. And as long as you haven’t experienced this: to die and so to grow, you are only a troubled guest on the dark earth. (The Holy Longing)

Social Justice Essential to the Gospel

Margaret Atwood once suggested that things which are painful and difficult to say should, nonetheless, be permitted the present tense. Painful truth, she submits, should not be washed or cauterized, but needs, instead, be said and said again, until it doesn’t need saying any more.

This is true, unfortunately, of social justice. One would think and hope that today there would be no question whatsoever that within Christian life and spirituality, social justice is not an optional item. It is a non-negotiable essential.

Sadly, that is not the case. For many of us, social justice is still seen as one specific and negotiable theology or as one optional part of spirituality. It is still seen as something we can take or leave. Scripture and Christian tradition, however, do not give us that option.

Already in the Book of Genesis, Scripture lays down a principle, which if taken seriously, demands social justice within every relationship we have. It tells us that creation reflects the glory of God and that all men and women are the glory of God.

This affirmation, understood correctly, is what social justice is all about: How do we protect the dignity of each woman and man.

The prophets flesh this out, with a clarity that leaves us no escape clause: For them, the quality of our faith depends upon the character of justice in the land. And according to them, you judge the character of justice in the land in the following way: By how a society treats three groups of persons: widows, orphans and foreigners.

They picked these groups because, at that time, these groups were the most vulnerable and least empowered among all the people. Perhaps less has changed than we suspect in the 2,800 years since the prophets threw out that challenge, given how widows, orphans and foreigners fare in today’s world.

Jesus takes up these ideas and deepens them. For him, we are not just like God, but, given the incarnation, God is also like us. This affords us, every single one of us, an incredible dignity. To protect that dignity requires social justice, namely structures, institutions and laws that promote and protect the dignity of every human person indiscriminately.

Moreover, Jesus deepens what the prophets said about widows, orphans and foreigners. For him, how we react in the face of their plight (and, by implication, how we react to the systems that help cause their plight) ultimately determines our salvation: “Whatsoever you do to the least of these (widows, orphans, foreigners) that you do unto me.”

Jesus identifies himself with the poor, with those on the edges, and tells us that whatever we do, good or bad, to them, we do to him, Furthermore, this is not just true for how our private lives, our personal sin or virtue, touch the poor, but also for how the systems (all the social, economic, ecclesial things we take part in) touch the orphan, the widow and the alien as well.

What we, or our systems, do to them, we do to Christ.

The common conception is that the church picked up this motif, in its social encyclicals, only about 100 years ago and is, only now, insisting on social justice. That is too simplistic. The church has always insisted on social justice. That insistence has simply taken on various forms:

The church has always upheld the dignity and sacredness of each human person and it has always affirmed (at least in theory if not in practice) that each person must therefore have personal access to those freedoms, goods and protections which can ensure that dignity. It also rightly insisted that these rights all have corresponding responsibilities.

Further, it also recognized that these rights and responsibilities play themselves out within a concrete community. It then taught that there are three essential levels to this community: family, nation and humanity.

Prior to its social encyclicals, the church focused much of its social teaching upon the first of these levels, the family. Then, from the late 19th century until the more recent social encyclicals, the focus was on the issues created by the industrial revolution, wages, unions and governmental responsibilities to the poor.

Today, its social teachings focus more on the third level, humanity and the problems of world peace, gender, race and the like. In this development we see a consistent line and a consistent emphasis on one of the great, non-optional, imperatives of the Gospel – social justice.

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